Today, a rainy Satruday, brought to mind another Love Myth. This one came to me because one of the people who responded to my blog called himself "Cautious Guy," and I got to thinking about his smart comment, his obvious (to me) Love God possibilities, and, well, the benefits of being cautious. Yes, cautious. It so goes against the …
As we all continue to hear the bloviators weigh in on Michelle Obama and Cindy McCain and Sarah Palin, many accomplished, strong women ask me why, in their own lives, so many men are so attracted to their own accomplishment and strength–count on it, in fact–but then seem also to fear it. They love their outspoken high-achieving women and …
Another myth reiterated by so many women of all ages and all stages of relationships, from dating to marriage, is one of the most insidious: "A man will desire me if I’m thin enough, kind enough, successful enough, pretty enough (etc.)…." My question to them is always the same: How thin, kind, pretty, …
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As The Love Goddess, I spend a lot of time thinking about dating. And about how many of you are dating not for the first time, but again–after the end of a marriage; after the death of a spouse; after a heart-wrenching breakup with a lover. It’s stunning to consider how much …
This goddess is thrilled at the response to the site! A few of you have already asked a similar question about internet dating (something the gods up here would cringe at the idea of, but never mind, they have other ways of meeting goddesses and anyway, it’s here to stay). The question is, How …
I’m always concerned about some of the ways dating gets sabotaged–not by the guy or woman, but by ideas that live in our hearts and minds. Earlier I discussed one myth, the one that says all love should be erotic all the time. Here’s another: Myth #2: If passion wanes, it cannot be revived. Not …
l liked the new Woody Allen movie, "Vicky Cristina Barcelona," not only because of the splendid beauty the moviemaker captured of Barcelona–and of his stars, Rebecca Hall, Scarlett Johansson, Javier Bardem and Penelope Cruz –but because Allen so clearly grasps and dispels some of the most tiresome myths perpetuated about women (that we don’t know …
I was talking earlier about A Thousand Hours of dating–the "normal" number of hours put in by someone now roughly 25 or 26 who dates about twice a month, maybe skipping a few months here and there, and who has logged in about two-hundred evenings over the past nine or so years….and still, maybe, hasn’t …
I was recently talking about the myths about desire–a subject we’ll return to again and again–and two particularly dangerous ones occurred to me. Here they are, in order of insidiousness: MYTH #1: True love is always highly erotic. No, it’s not. Maybe in men’s magazines, or chick lit. More likely, true love has highly erotic …
