What if Janet, in my last blog, hating dating as she does, decided to take herself off the net for a couple of weeks and stopped dating? Just stopped. Until she had a true desire to start again. What if, in tackling the fear that overtakes Kristin when she thinks, OMIGOD IT’S CHRISTMAS AGAIN, I’M …
Doing Your Own Thing–Not the "Bliss" Thing–part 3 Read More »
You remember Kristen, whom I discussed the other day (“Single at 36… why So Gloomy?”) Well, Janet, 40, also desperate to find a man, has dated approximately 17 men who are definitely marriage material– but couldn’t stand any of them. “It’s like I must pick one of these guys to be the father of my …
Kirsten, 36, has just finished writing her profile for the online dating service she’s been with for two years. Hers doesn’t read like all those others that ask wistfully, “You: Crave perfect sex on silken white beaches in the Caribbean; love children, puppies, poetry; play polo professionally; work out daily; call your mother weekly; make …
Beautiful, Single, and Dating Online at 36… Why so Gloomy? Read More »
Q: You talk about an online profile having two segments: “Self-presentation” and “Request.” I have an easier time describing myself than I have requesting; but isn’t that because I KNOW me –and don’t precisely what I’m looking for? –Angie A: Dear Angie, Yes, that’s part of it. But another part is that you may be used …
I’m sorry to have been away for so long….I was visiting people who needed the Love Goddess in Wales, and having trouble getting onto the net, what with internet connections being what they are deep in continental farmland! Anyway I’m back, and have just read The New York Times for the first time in weeks. …
A comment from a reader named “Redlight” has made an important point about the distinction I’ve long made between loneliness and aloneness. Whern you stop trying to be with people because you “should” be with them–because, say, they’re eligible, or have good credentials, you may find yourself alone for some time. But during that time, …
Q: What about 60-year-olds, do they fall in love? –A Booming Baby Boomer A: Dear Booming Boomer, Oh heavens! Do they ever! According to U.S. Census data, there are now 90-million unmarried adults–making single people, not married ones, the country’s new majority. Being single is now the most widely shared experience of adulthood! And what …
A friend calls to say she’s dating a man who’s not separated, not divorced, but single. He hasn’t had a serious girlfriend in years, and by all external criteria, he’s an ambulatory, unattached, employed, attractive man—“a catch,” she was told by the man who introduced them– who happens to be available. “Great!” I say. …
Q: I’m 41 and have been married and divorced, and want to find love again. I’ve always liked lots of people around me, and am a good, easy hostess. But I’ve gotten so used to “hanging out” that I no longer know how to make it clear that I’m not feeling as casual about my …
My dear earthly nymphs, you kind and warmhearted lovers, the reason I've spent so much time of late talking about separated men and divorced men–even though you're all grownups who no doubt have been separated or divorced yourselves– is simply that I've been around a long time and know how it works. When the …
"Appetite, a universal wolf." –William Shakespeare Read More »
