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The Power of the Least Interested – Part 2

WE ALL WANT LOVE—BUT DON’T ALWAYS WANT TO GET IT Yesterday I spoke about the “Rocky” notion that if you just fight hard enough for something,  by God …

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As in Handbags, So In Love–The Power of The Least Interested — Part 3

Victoria Beckham’s pink Birkin bag–I think it’s crocodile– is just one of many of her gorgeous Birkin bags. But watch: The Power of the Least Interested applies to …

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New Cars and New Love: The Power of The Least Interested, part 4

     Hard to believe how powerful the Least Interested are, not only in romantic attraction but in attraction to everything else, but if anyone knows the tricks, it’s …

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Schools, Too, Are Like Love: The Power of the Least Interested, part 5

So if this kid doesn’t want to be in school, and the teacher wants him to be, who wins?  Welcome to The Power of The …

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Using The Power of The Least Interested: Part 6

Don’t you love this photo, taken by the wonderful photogapher Pam Barkentin Blackburn? It illustrates the mood of  The Power of the Least Interested in …

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The One Who Can Walk, Wins: The Power of the Least Interested, Part 7

In a new relationship, and maybe even in a not-so-new one, the person less dependent on the other, less in love, perhaps–holds the power.  One …

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On Love and Relationships

In this field guide to twenty-first century dating, Dalma Heyn gives women the tools they need to find the partners they want

Why Do Men Bother Choosing Women They Can’t Love?

I hear about it every day: The high-achieving woman and the man who is attracted to her.

"I'm Getting Divorced and I Look Exhausted…Help!"

Jane came to me two months ago, fragile and beleaguered, just after the end of a grueling divorce.  She didn’t want love help, she wanted …

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“He Doesn’t Remember Our Anniversary!”

Q. Dear Goddess: My husband never remembers our anniversary. Usually, since it means a lot to me, I remind him of it–not to collect a …

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