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“So, Fred, When You Gonna Make Me A Grandma?”

So now young gay couples are feeling the heat from their parents:   One friend of mine, a man who has been a couple with another …

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Surprise! Websites for The Unfaithful!

Years ago it was thought that husbands had affairs and wives did not. Really. I was thrown off several radio shows for insisting that the …

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Honesty about Infidelity? Not on Your Life!

Last week, a Portland, Oregan documentarist interviewed me about my feelings about open marriage. He’s making a documentary about marriage, and he wants to share …

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One Reason Gay Marriage is Great for Straight Marriage

The construct of the Wife, that traditional icon of virtue, has depressed many a woman and killed many a traditional marriage. Luckily for gay men and women, they won’t face this horrible cultural construct. And I say Amen to that!

“Honey, I want some…SPACE!”

More evidence that women’s attitudes toward  marriage have changed dramatically: The Pew  Research Center, which analyzes census data,  confirms what I’ve been hearing from  women: …

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Ask Not What Gay Marriage Can Do For Us, But What We Can Do For Gay Couples

Yesterday’s jubilant march along New York streets celebrating the right of gay men and women to marry was a spectacular reaffirmation of something we haven’t …

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Weiner’s Reasons? Schwarzenegger’s Apology? Do We Care?

I mean, what is there left to say but “Whatever”? That’s now the word of choice used by the young when, yet again, some famous, …

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Women Surfing the Edge of Change

That an entire book has to be written about the way in which the French put pleasure first in their lives–a pleasure gleaned from a lovely …

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Coming Up Next!: The Pretend Marriage

My favorite new fact about marriage is not the Census Bureau’s 2010 report that four in ten Americans feel that marriage is becoming obsolete.  (In my …

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Time Out

A quick note to say I’ll be away for two weeks and am abandoning ship for that time….but will be back in full force when …

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