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"How Do We Delay Our Divorce?"

Dear Goddess,  my husband and I still live under the same roof, but have been awaiting the time when we could afford to get a …

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Stop Trying to Please!

   I’m hearing a lot about the problem many women have of “handing themselves over” to the dating process–that is, feeling that, once they decide …

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The Confrontational Gene: It's in You, So Use it!

I’m just back from The University of Vermont, where one of my darling goddess-daughters, Ryan, just graduated from the Honors School, and where former Vermont …

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"I'm Being Shunned for Getting Divorced!"

Dear Goddess, I’ve recently gotten a divorce. Suddenly I’m finding that some people–particularly people at my church–are acting chilly towards me.  I feel as if …

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Courtship Anxiety, Part 2: Awaiting The Call

    Okay, since yesterday, little has changed: He still hasn’t called. You still have a stomachache. You still are furious at yourself for regressing to this …

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You LIKED that Blind Date. Now What?

     It’s Saturday and you’re dressing for a blind date, who is to arrive in ten minutes. You’re wishing that you were spending the night …

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Oprah and The Love Goddess: "Trust Your Gut!"

      Here’s what I so love about Oprah: In yesterday’s commencement speech to the Duke University Graduating class of 2009 (where her godson-William, son of …

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Sex is not enough

When she talked about her new lover, she always talked about sex. In fact, she always looked as if she’d just HAD sex. Flushed, beaming. …

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The (Continued) Curse of The Old Girlfriend

  A friend points out that I omitted a whole section, in my last blog, about the possibility that it’s not YOU obsessing about the ghosts …

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Ghosts of Old Girlfriends

Here’s what you know about her. She was gorgeous. Thin, long-legged, big-breasted; oh– and successful; and speaks four languages; and….blah blah.    You are obsessed …

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