Years ago it was thought that husbands had affairs and wives did not. Really. I was thrown off several radio shows for insisting that the legions of men having affairs across the globe were not, as these talk-show hosts thought, sleeping only with a small pool of unmarried women, but with other wives as well. That …
Jane came to me two months ago, fragile and beleaguered, just after the end of a grueling divorce. She didn’t want love help, she wanted self-love help. Her skin was blotchy and broken out, her weight high; her self-esteem shot. Her deeply held notions about the importance of aging naturally had become, she said, “a …
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Q. Dear Goddess: My husband never remembers our anniversary. Usually, since it means a lot to me, I remind him of it–not to collect a present, but so we can do something fun. But I’m tired of reminding him. I feel like I’m controlling him. Why can’t he remember?” –Perennially Disappointed A. Dear Disappointed Earth …
Q. Dear Goddess: How do I know if a man, whom I love but feel uncomfortable with much of the time, is wrong for me? –Weirded out A. Dear Weirded Out: You know by analyzing this discomfort. Not in your head, but in your heart and in your body. My rule of thumb: If a …
So, I know I’m not the first blogger out here to rave about Julia Child (thank you, Julie Powell!) and I know it’s all the rage to eat like Julia…but just this once, okay? And, as many of us really want to eat as Julia wanted us to, but also want to keeping our stomachs …
Q.:. Dear Goddess: I keep going out with men who look great, have good jobs, etc., but who are really, really strange once they’re in a relationship. I KNOW this is the men I’m choosing and not all men….but is there a way of spotting these guys? –Miserable A. Dear Miserable: Spotting men unfit for human …
The discovery that Bernie Madoff was having a 20-year affair shocked many people. I’m not sure I understand why. Here’s a guy who lied to and cheated everyone for decades. What makes us think he wouldn’t lie to and cheat his wife of fifty years? What fantasy is THAT on our parts? I guess it …
Women often ask me how to assess a new lover–what questions to ask whose answers will reveal important information about this man. Well you know my answer to this: How he behaves is your answer. But for the impatient among you, there’s one question I’ve found to be revealing: “How did your family express affection?” Many possible answers will …
Q. Dear Goddess: I’ve been through hell with a guy and just finally broke up with him. But I’m deeply depressed. A psychopharmacologist has given me Lexapro, which helps, but can’t afford a therapist. Am I making a mistake? –Sick at Heart A. Dear Sick at Heart: I’ve just read that the number of Americans …
Q. Dear Goddess: My boyfriend likes to make up after an argument by having sex, and says I’m “carrying a grudge” if I don’t go along with it. I hate to, and also start to hate HIM for his insistence on making up this way. Am I wrong? — Grudge A. Dear Grudge: Some people can resolve fights …
