The Hacking of an Extramarital Affairs Site
When visitors go on a site for extramarital sex, and offer their personal information, I believe they’re deeply ambivalent about keeping their behavior a secret
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“I Have Your Back!”
Women’s History Month is full of women who already made history with their achievements. Let’s look at women making history right now–by doing what women have been taught not to do: have one another’s backs.
How Do You Categorize a Love Story?
It’s always strange when you finish a book, to see how it fits into the categories offered by publishers. My three nonfiction books were, one by one, total misfits: Each is a serious book about women, or women and men, with the academic approval I’d hoped for but with commercial appeal that made them popular, too. So, …
The Perfect Man
Big news in the Daily Mail Reporter: In a study of 2,000 British women, the search for Mr. Perfect seems to be a complete bust. “While many chaps have positive attributes, the majority are deeply flawed,” the hard-hitting study reveals. “In fact, in [this] study…. most ranked their partner as only 69 per cent perfect.” …
Fun
For a survey I was conducting some years ago in a woman’s magazine, I asked readers:What do you think the primary purpose of marriage is? Among the options offered were the obvious ones: To have a family. Monetary stability. Settling down. Sharing a life. I offered one, though, that stuck out in this roster of noble …
Hindsight
One of my favorite authors is the late Carolyn Heilbrun, whose wisdom about women still moves me when I pick up, as I often do, “Hamlet’s Mother,” or “Writing a Woman’s Life,” two of her books. The title of my blog, InHeynsight, is a rewriting, but not a rethinking, of her words—words I used as a chapter …
Prenups
A woman who appeared on my cable show not long ago revealed, when I announced that fifty percent of all American women will live with or marry a man with children, the following (familiar, alas) story. She’s close to retirement and has been saving for years. Her adult son doesn’t need money, so her small …
The End of Marriage? No Way.
Marriage was once immutable, like forests and wild animals and clean air. It was as inevitable and reliable as the tides. But it isn’t inevitable anymore, nor reliable. With the majority of the people in the United States now single people, not married ones, we’re looking at a clearly more fluid entity when we look at …
Fear of Ending It? Get over it!
I’d rather talk about weightier issues than relationship etiquette, but I just heard for the second time this week about another person who ended a relationship by email. I can’t stand it: How rude and cowardly can you get? It was a woman, alas, so we can’t blame it on gender cluelessness.. She said she …
Sexy Parents, Sanctimonious Kids
I wrote a long time ago, in response to the fact that so many women were leaving their marriages: “In the past 25 years women have bloomed. How can we still be talking about fitting modern wives back into an ancient institution, rather than enlarging an ancient institution to make room for modern wives?” I said this on …