Q: I’m in my late thirties, happily involved with a man I love, and I keep hearing about reaching my “sexual peak”? If not now, when? A: Ah yes, the sexual peak problem. It’s as if you, sexually active throughout her twenties but not emotionally secure till now, feel you’ve scaled a kind of developmental …
Q: I’m 25 and with a man who has promised to get a divorce for three years, but keeps saying he doesn’t want his children put through a trauma. He thinks I should “compromise” and just let things be as they are. Why doesn’t this FEEL like a “compromise”? A: Because it’s not a compromise. …
Q: I’ve had an affair. It’s over, but I don’t know what to do to make things right with the man I live with and love. I want to hurl myself at him and tell him everything: that I never intended to do it, that I believe utterly in fidelity. But I feel like that …
Q: My online dates all lie about their age. Should I? –Hal A: Dear Hal, This is a tricky one, and I’ve heard a lot of ideas about it. One theory holds that you might as well come clean from the get-go and meet the people who can accept the truth. But sometimes people lie …
A woman I met at a party–call her Wendy–turned to me, after I said that she seemed happy with her new date, and said, “He’s cute. But he has a penis the size of my PINKY.” Goodness. What does a goddess say to that? Was I to press for more details (“Awesome. And is that …
Q: I’m a 30-year-old man in love with a woman whose parents have invited us for a weekend at their home. She claims we’ll be sleeping in separate rooms; I feel that’s antediluvian and ridiculous. We’re not living together, but we’ve gone out a long time. What do I do? –Frustrated A: Dear Frustrated, What …
The goddess is grumpy about grammar. Yes, grammar. What does this have to do with love? Follow me here for a minute. In a riveting and potentially tragic piece on the front page of the New York Times this morning, a story links an Austrian banker named Mrs. Kohn to Bernard Madoff–and states that she …
What has happened down there on your planet–doesn’t anybody know how to apologize for wrongs they’ve done? Here’s Bernard Madoff, who’s ruined peoples lives; and government officials who remain willfully, stubbornly unaccountable for their unthinkable, ruinous actions–refusing to offer even the smallest statement of regret, let alone to acknowledge wrongdoing. I know families and friends …
It’s New Year’s Day and I’ve been resisting the RESOLUTIONS blog because I so hate the idea of suggesting, along with the rest of the world, that you improve yourself. Good God, isn’t that what we spend most of our time doing? Who wants to fail yet again? So, and I’ve thought hard about this: …
In the New York Times Health section this last week psychiatrist Richard A Friedman writes that his male patients have appeared far more emotionally devastated by the nation’s staggering financial downturns than his women patients. It’s not that women don’t get upset about job and money losses, he adds, but when it hits them, they …
