I read something serious about sex in yesterday’s New York Times Style section. For context, let me tell you–on the chance that you don’t know already– about “rainbowing.” Rainbowing is when each teenage girl at a party puts on a thick coating of lipstick–each one wearing a different color. And then, each teenage girl performs fellatio …
Q. Why do Men Cheat? A. Because they can. Or, let me frame that differently. Because, for so long, they could. Without consequences. And because other men expected them to. And because women were encouraged to accept it, and were told that men’s infidelity isn’t personal; that it isn’t about them…..that men just had to, follow …
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Q: I love my boyfriend: Why am I still so sexually attracted to other guys? A: Because, dearest earth girl, you are human. Whoever told you that attraction ends when commitment begins? Your mother? Surely not. And yet there is, deep in the culture, the idea that once we’re committed to someone, all our Desire …
I’m hearing too many stories about what joblessness and money woes are doing to relationships. More wife-beating. More verbal abuse. More men saying things (to women caring for three kids at home) like, “I’m not your bail-out package, y’know.” More women saying things to men like, “I didn’t sign on for life with a jobless …
Q: I have a new boyfriend and already feel I’m working too hard at sex. Can you help? A: You’ll rest easier if you ditch these four signs of sexual overachieving. 1. Trying too hard to give him an orgasm. Your thinking: “If I please him totally right away, he’ll be in the right mood …
From The Goddess’s good friend Michael Steinberg, who reports this morning, after reading The New York Times, from his world of online dating: “It has become a daily pleasure to open The New York Times, turn to the obituaries, and see how many of the women with whom computer dating services have matched me are–shall …
Q: Sex between my beloved and me doesn’t blow my mind. But we’re comfortable and confident together. Can sex ever get better? A: No one ever said comfort and confidence are cinematic. The infamous dark side to eroticism is that it very often spikes in the presence of Mr. Wrong. “I had a peak experience …
I was up late last night thinking about the answer I gave Sunday to Harriet, whose husband told her he wants to sleep with other women and, that he’d like her to join in. Because this is a blog, and not a book, or even a prepared talk, I answered her question (“Should I?” ) …
Here’s a question for you, my dearest lovers down there on earth. It comes from a reader, and normally I’d put this in the Ask The Goddess section of this site, but I’m hearing it so often that I want to blog instead. This is from Harriet: “I have been happily married for over ten years. …
1. So Goddess, here’s the thing: I’m ready to roll—Brazil- waxed into a red heart shape, skin exfoliated, and so forth (as you suggested some time ago). It’s my fifth date with a man I met online, and Valentine’s Day night, we both know, is THE night. Whose place should we go to for this, …
