Q. Dear Goddess: My lover, who is a widower, is in his late 40s. This weekend, we’re visiting his 25-year-old son, Bob, whom I’ve not yet met, and spending the night at his home. Bob is a born-again Christian, and we wonder whether we’ll be able to sleep in the same bed in his home. We feel we’re too …
Q. Dear Goddess: So, are you mad at Mark Sanford for his infidelity? –Jane A. No, Jane, not as mad at him for that as I am for his raging hypocrisy. He’s been going on on and on about morality and the sanctity of marriage and family values for years. He was among the terminally self-righteous who …
Dear Goddess: Try as I might, I keep going out with similar kinds of men-men who don’t look or act the same-in fact I make a point of trying to break the pattern– but who turn out to treat me a certain way that I hate. I worry about my ability to choose…. Dear Earth …
Q. Dear Goddess: A man complained to me that I had my phone on the table during our first date. I always have my phone on the table–what’s his problem? A. Dear Earth Girl: His problem is that it’s rude to plant your phone on the table as a matter of course. If you’ve ever been with a man …
Q. Dear Goddess: My lover has been talking a lot about wanting more “space.” When I ask him what he means, he can’t explain it and just gets cranky. Does he know what he means? A. Dear Earth girl: Yes, he knows just what he means. He can’t explain it because he doesn’t want to …
Hundreds of years ago, when I was an athletic young goddess going out with the teenage head of the Pantheon Tennis Team, Jove stopped me at the heavenly court gates: “Let him win,” he whispered. “Not if I can beat him,” I said. “Beat him and you’ll lose him as both a …
Q. Dear Goddess, can a woman push a man into action (okay, I mean marriage) by issuing a demand? A. Ah, the Ultimatum. One of my favorite topics. Listen closely to this one, because the goddess knows her stuff. Women are not taught to think in terms of outright demands, of course, but rather in …
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A big smiley face, the familiar yellow one that many people sign off e-mails with, the Have- A- Happy-Day one, opens The New York Times’ Sunday Styles section’s story about the return of the Nice Guy in films and advertising. Paul Rudd stars as a sweet guy in the new comedy, “I Love You, …
Q: Dear Goddess: In this new economic climate, should men and women split checks on their dates? I want to go out, but I don’t have a lot of money–and don’t know if it’s fair to ask a guy to pick up the check. –Janie A: Ah, Janie, you’ve hit upon an issue that seems to be all …
Dear Goddess, my husband and I still live under the same roof, but have been awaiting the time when we could afford to get a divorce. Things are not getting easier…..what’s your advice? –Stranded Dear Stranded, When breaking up is this hard to do, my advice is not to do it. At least not …
