Q. I’m not getting married just yet, but I’m involved with a man who has expressed his desire for marriage. I’m not sure I can promise sexual exclusivity. What do I do? A. Say so, dearest lover. But first, find out whether he expects it. He may want his sexual freedom, too. This is …
I’m celebrating the completion of my 100th blog–and, since they all made it without a hitch from all the way up way up here in the heavens down to you, I have a treat for you. As you know, I’ve been sent to earth to encourage Love. Love among lovers, among friends, among family members. …
Q. All I hear is that when I’ve found my soulmate, and marry him, we’ll become ONE? Is this true? A. No. And thank your lucky stars for that. And thank you, too, for letting me talk about one of the most damaging myths of all time. Those who tell you that you’ll become …
Listen, I thought I’d seen it all up here at the top of the universe, what with the gods’ and goddesses’ perverse antics. Have I ever claimed that gods and goddesses aren’t a jealous lot? Have I ever suggested they aren’t easily insulted– particularly by mortals? So I let this story about the pop …
“Forget this silly internet,” someone announced at a party at Bacchus’s place the other night, “You only meet your soulmate at a friend’s house.” “Or at work,” a goddess chimed in. “Or at a party,” said Bacchus, pouring out to excess a superb Corton Charlemagne into everyone’s goblet . “That was a long time ago,” I …
Karen Glenn, my good friend who lives in Carbondale, Colorado, has been sending out poetry each week to her friends and colleagues for years. I read every one of them, not only because I love Karen but because her taste is so uncannily good. Karen, a gifted poet herself, has an instinct for poems …
I read something serious about sex in yesterday’s New York Times Style section. For context, let me tell you–on the chance that you don’t know already– about “rainbowing.” Rainbowing is when each teenage girl at a party puts on a thick coating of lipstick–each one wearing a different color. And then, each teenage girl performs fellatio …
Q. Is it possible to really hate the person you love? A. Are you kidding? In my thousands of years with my partner, believe me, I have some stories! We all seem to think that Love is a pure, static emotion; that it is as faithful as a puppy. Nope. Emotions fluctuate wildly, and the wilder …
Q. Why do Men Cheat? A. Because they can. Or, let me frame that differently. Because, for so long, they could. Without consequences. And because other men expected them to. And because women were encouraged to accept it, and were told that men’s infidelity isn’t personal; that it isn’t about them…..that men just had to, follow …
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Q: I love my boyfriend: Why am I still so sexually attracted to other guys? A: Because, dearest earth girl, you are human. Whoever told you that attraction ends when commitment begins? Your mother? Surely not. And yet there is, deep in the culture, the idea that once we’re committed to someone, all our Desire …
