It’s the goddess’s birthday today, and my beloved Jove has called me my favorite endearment, “Darling”, at least six times already. I love it. Such a wonderful, grownup term, “darling” is, kind of 1930s–something Fred Astaire would say to Ginger Rogers, or Laurence Olivier to anyone lucky enough to be on stage with him. I …
Q: I’m a 30-year-old man in love with a woman whose parents have invited us for a weekend at their home. She claims we’ll be sleeping in separate rooms; I feel that’s antediluvian and ridiculous. We’re not living together, but we’ve gone out a long time. What do I do? –Frustrated A: Dear Frustrated, What …
Q: I’ve never been married (I’m 32) and it embarrasses me (and my parents, of course). Why is being single still a stigma? –Worried A: Dear Worried, It’s not! Don’t believe it! Our culture loves us to marry (for lots of reasons that benefit society) and so yes, there is still pressure. But there are …
So let’s get back to nice men. Not because it’s a charitable act to like nice men rather than their “cooler” contemporaries–on the contrary; it’s totally self-serving. How many women can claim to feel what my friend Amy feels: “I’m going out with a man who listens to me. He notices what matters to me. …
I’m on a Nice Man kick. If you live up here in the Pantheon, you meet, like, one or two really nice gods–the rest are as likely as not to hurl a goddess off a mountain or turn her into a tree if they’re not having a dgood day. If nice gods are rare, nice …
In the New York Times Health section this last week psychiatrist Richard A Friedman writes that his male patients have appeared far more emotionally devastated by the nation’s staggering financial downturns than his women patients. It’s not that women don’t get upset about job and money losses, he adds, but when it hits them, they …
Q: I’m single and feeling a lot of weird vibes about it. I thought the pressure to get married was a thing of the past, and now I find I’m fielding endless questions about why a great gal like me doesn’t have a guy. It’s making me uncomfortable. What’s the deal with this? A: The …
Q: Every guy I meet on Facebook wants me to send topless pictures, or more. I’m intimidated by this but I’m 21 and want to stay on a social site. –Prudence A: Dear Prudence, Get off Facebook or make it clear to these prospective dates what you want. You’re in charge of who sees what …
A New York Times essay today laments the fact that dating, as we know it, has ended (“The Demise of Dating,” by Charles M. Blow, Saturday, Dec.13). Anyone who reads The Love Goddess knows that dating–e.g., courtship, i.e., the orderly ritual by which a man and women get to know each other in order to …
So you’re dating a man who divorced his wife. Or whose wife died. Or maybe you’re even married to this man who divorced his wife or whose wife died. It’s the third Christmas together now and his grown children, who sided with the divorced wife (or with the now-sainted late wife to whom they still …
