Dearest wounded lovers, I assume you’ve spent the weekend in bed and followed the 8-part program to get yourself out of Heartbreak Hell. You’re rested. You’ve eaten well. You haven’t cut your hair into last year’s Victoria Beckham bob; you haven’t put in hightlights that turned green or leave the glycolic peel on too long. You’re okay. Now comes the …
Dear heartbroken ones, I hope you took to your bed yesterday and are still there. Here are four more musts for getting through this hideous time. As you can see from the previous four ways to survive heartbreak hell, my concern is not in reconnecting. It’s in rebuilding. Rebuilding You. Then, perhaps, and only then, is …
Q: Sex between my beloved and me doesn’t blow my mind. But we’re comfortable and confident together. Can sex ever get better? A: No one ever said comfort and confidence are cinematic. The infamous dark side to eroticism is that it very often spikes in the presence of Mr. Wrong. “I had a peak experience …
It’s worse than that he’s no longer into you; he no longer loves you. He doesn’t return your calls. He is seeing someone else. You’ve got to get it together, but something has come apart in you, and you can’t. I’m here to tell you how to get a grip. I promise, from thousands of …
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I was up late last night thinking about the answer I gave Sunday to Harriet, whose husband told her he wants to sleep with other women and, that he’d like her to join in. Because this is a blog, and not a book, or even a prepared talk, I answered her question (“Should I?” ) …
Here’s a question for you, my dearest lovers down there on earth. It comes from a reader, and normally I’d put this in the Ask The Goddess section of this site, but I’m hearing it so often that I want to blog instead. This is from Harriet: “I have been happily married for over ten years. …
1. So Goddess, here’s the thing: I’m ready to roll—Brazil- waxed into a red heart shape, skin exfoliated, and so forth (as you suggested some time ago). It’s my fifth date with a man I met online, and Valentine’s Day night, we both know, is THE night. Whose place should we go to for this, …
I’m getting a nice amount of mail regarding the letter in the New York Times last Sunday (by Dalma Heyn, my earthly persona). I was disappointed by the layout of the article the previous week on women’s desire (a subject I’ve been involved in for thousands of years), not because it was photographed by a man–that’s fair enough; …
Before we move headlong into the high holy day of love, which of course is meaningful to your Love Goddess (mostly because my son, Cupid, is such a pivotal figure in it), I want to put on the breaks for a moment in honor of living single. I want to stress the joy of it, …
Q: I’m 25 and with a man who has promised to get a divorce for three years, but keeps saying he doesn’t want his children put through a trauma. He thinks I should “compromise” and just let things be as they are. Why doesn’t this FEEL like a “compromise”? A: Because it’s not a compromise. …
