Q: Since my divorce three years ago, I’ve often been in the company (and, occasionally, the bed) of an old and dear friend, Mike, who’s ten years younger than I am and who my young kids–surprise!– adore. They keep dropping hints about our getting married. I don’t want to marry him, but I’m afraid to …
Yesterday I talked about one kind of online nightmare: The bully. Today's potential-date time-waster is the Online Flasher: the man who exposes his emotions too quickly online….and wants you to, too. The man who bares his soul to you—tells you too much about his ex-wife, his past (or, worse, present) girlfriends, the intricacies of his …
I talk a lot about trusting your instincts, and that goes doubly when you're dating online. When that picture of him pops up–the swimming one, the one in the cute hockey shirt, the one with his buddies at beach volley ball–your instinct may be to say, "That's him. That's the one!"– and e-mails then …
When Kim found out that Peter, her lover of six months, was sleeping with another woman, she threw up. In fact, she couldn’t stop throwing up. When she finally felt better enough to confront him with her feelings of betrayal; the breach of trust; and about what he had done to their relationship—he looked …
I'm hearing a lot about lateness of late–meeting a date at a restaurant, often early in a romance, and finding yourself alone….for a half hour or more. I'm hearing not about occasional lateness due to traffic congestion, but chronic, habitual lateness. And I'm hearing that the late, late date thinks it's okay to be late. …
Q: I’m divorced, dating a nice guy, and totally freaked. (I dated one man in my life: my husband!) My heart is willing but my body isn’t. Help! –Dry Girl A: Dear Dry Girl, If what you say about the heart being willing is true, you gotta get moist again, and fast. You didn’t state …
Today's New York Times has a piece on the inordinate amount of talking young girls do, particularly about their problems. Researchers are mixed in their responses to this new round-the-clock interaction: Some say it saves them from therapy (I remember a wonderful essay some time ago by Katha Pollitt, who said, essentially, that the reason …
I'm asked by a woman who read an earlier blog of mine and asks, "Okay, Goddess, so how do I learn to separate the guy who comes on too strong from the who is just showing his desire for me? How do I know whether a man will love me and then head for the hills? " The …
Q: My boyfriend and I both have teenagers who don’t know we’re having sex. My shrink says, “Tell them.” My boyfriend’s shrink says, “Tell them nothing. They’ll find out when you arise one day out of the bedroom.” Who’s right? –Glenda A: Dear Glenda, I’m for telling them. Silence hides news that is crucial to …
Today, a rainy Satruday, brought to mind another Love Myth. This one came to me because one of the people who responded to my blog called himself "Cautious Guy," and I got to thinking about his smart comment, his obvious (to me) Love God possibilities, and, well, the benefits of being cautious. Yes, cautious. It so goes against the …
