A New York Times essay today laments the fact that dating, as we know it, has ended (“The Demise of Dating,” by Charles M. Blow, Saturday, Dec.13). Anyone who reads The Love Goddess knows that dating–e.g., courtship, i.e., the orderly ritual by which a man and women get to know each other in order to …
So you’re dating a man who divorced his wife. Or whose wife died. Or maybe you’re even married to this man who divorced his wife or whose wife died. It’s the third Christmas together now and his grown children, who sided with the divorced wife (or with the now-sainted late wife to whom they still …
What if Janet, in my last blog, hating dating as she does, decided to take herself off the net for a couple of weeks and stopped dating? Just stopped. Until she had a true desire to start again. What if, in tackling the fear that overtakes Kristin when she thinks, OMIGOD IT’S CHRISTMAS AGAIN, I’M …
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Q: I’m sleeping with a man after not sleeping with any man for, oh, five years. I’m a mature woman–in my 50s–and realize that the hair on my woo-woo (as my mother called it) has faded. Some of it is even very faded–like, white. What can I do? A: Ah, you will be back to …
You remember Kristen, whom I discussed the other day (“Single at 36… why So Gloomy?”) Well, Janet, 40, also desperate to find a man, has dated approximately 17 men who are definitely marriage material– but couldn’t stand any of them. “It’s like I must pick one of these guys to be the father of my …
Okay, my earthly darlings, you’re dating again after years of not having sex–for whatever reason you were not having it. That’s terrific! But you know, of course, that being a lover in your twenties is different from being a mature lover years later at 40, 50 or 60, not only for the obvious reasons–fewer possible …
Kirsten, 36, has just finished writing her profile for the online dating service she’s been with for two years. Hers doesn’t read like all those others that ask wistfully, “You: Crave perfect sex on silken white beaches in the Caribbean; love children, puppies, poetry; play polo professionally; work out daily; call your mother weekly; make …
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Ah, just when the Reverend Ed Young suggests that parishioners have daily sex for one week (as he did last week; see my blog, “The Sex Challenge”) the writer Lauren Slater suggests, in today’s New York Times Style Section) that married couples be given a reprieve from the focus on sex; and that she, for …
Q: You talk about an online profile having two segments: “Self-presentation” and “Request.” I have an easier time describing myself than I have requesting; but isn’t that because I KNOW me –and don’t precisely what I’m looking for? –Angie A: Dear Angie, Yes, that’s part of it. But another part is that you may be used …
I’m sorry to have been away for so long….I was visiting people who needed the Love Goddess in Wales, and having trouble getting onto the net, what with internet connections being what they are deep in continental farmland! Anyway I’m back, and have just read The New York Times for the first time in weeks. …
