Q: I’m a 30-year-old man in love with a woman whose parents have invited us for a weekend at their home. She claims we’ll be sleeping in separate rooms; I feel that’s antediluvian and ridiculous. We’re not living together, but we’ve gone out a long time. What do I do? –Frustrated A: Dear Frustrated, What …
The goddess is grumpy about grammar. Yes, grammar. What does this have to do with love? Follow me here for a minute. In a riveting and potentially tragic piece on the front page of the New York Times this morning, a story links an Austrian banker named Mrs. Kohn to Bernard Madoff–and states that she …
What has happened down there on your planet–doesn’t anybody know how to apologize for wrongs they’ve done? Here’s Bernard Madoff, who’s ruined peoples lives; and government officials who remain willfully, stubbornly unaccountable for their unthinkable, ruinous actions–refusing to offer even the smallest statement of regret, let alone to acknowledge wrongdoing. I know families and friends …
Q: I’ve never been married (I’m 32) and it embarrasses me (and my parents, of course). Why is being single still a stigma? –Worried A: Dear Worried, It’s not! Don’t believe it! Our culture loves us to marry (for lots of reasons that benefit society) and so yes, there is still pressure. But there are …
It’s New Year’s Day and I’ve been resisting the RESOLUTIONS blog because I so hate the idea of suggesting, along with the rest of the world, that you improve yourself. Good God, isn’t that what we spend most of our time doing? Who wants to fail yet again? So, and I’ve thought hard about this: …
So let’s get back to nice men. Not because it’s a charitable act to like nice men rather than their “cooler” contemporaries–on the contrary; it’s totally self-serving. How many women can claim to feel what my friend Amy feels: “I’m going out with a man who listens to me. He notices what matters to me. …
I’m on a Nice Man kick. If you live up here in the Pantheon, you meet, like, one or two really nice gods–the rest are as likely as not to hurl a goddess off a mountain or turn her into a tree if they’re not having a dgood day. If nice gods are rare, nice …
In the New York Times Health section this last week psychiatrist Richard A Friedman writes that his male patients have appeared far more emotionally devastated by the nation’s staggering financial downturns than his women patients. It’s not that women don’t get upset about job and money losses, he adds, but when it hits them, they …
Q: I’m single and feeling a lot of weird vibes about it. I thought the pressure to get married was a thing of the past, and now I find I’m fielding endless questions about why a great gal like me doesn’t have a guy. It’s making me uncomfortable. What’s the deal with this? A: The …
Q: Every guy I meet on Facebook wants me to send topless pictures, or more. I’m intimidated by this but I’m 21 and want to stay on a social site. –Prudence A: Dear Prudence, Get off Facebook or make it clear to these prospective dates what you want. You’re in charge of who sees what …
