I, The Love Goddess, am not a lover of Valentine’s Day. For one thing, my son is Cupid, and I’m not fond of all the little cherubic pictures of him with stupid little arrows in his quiver. He’s a much more handsome young man than Hallmark thinks he is, and, well, just imagine having YOUR …
Q: I’ve had an affair. It’s over, but I don’t know what to do to make things right with the man I live with and love. I want to hurl myself at him and tell him everything: that I never intended to do it, that I believe utterly in fidelity. But I feel like that …
A reader who says she has been in four serious relationships, but none of them totally satisfying, asks, “Are there some women who never fall in love?” Of course there are. And while they don’t want to admit it, some women have needed to claim they’re in love or have had to convince themselves they’re …
Q: I’ve been going out with a man who’s always late. Always. I hate it. I end up waiting for up to an hour in restaurants, and I want to kill him. Sometimes he calls and says he’s on his way, which buys him more time! What should I do? –Anne A: Dear Anne, Decide …
In yesterday’s post, I pointed out that the photographs accompanying an article on women’s desire in The New York Times were all of women. They looked desirable, but had little to do with what women desire. For that, according to the piece itself, the photos should have been of men. Men’s faces thrown back in …
I love reading articles on female desire, because of course I’m the Love Goddess and want to encourage pleasure, and women’s pleasure has remained more elusive over the centuries than men’s. Haven’t we all spent lifetimes reading “What Men Want” and obsessing over it? (I’ve been pleasing Jove now for thousands of years.) So yesterday’s …
I’m struck by some words the Reverend Joseph Lowery uttered in his inauguration address today. “Turn to each other,” he said, “not on each other.” How this point of politics resonates in the world of love! If you’ve ever been involved in an affair with a narcissist–and I mean a real narcissist, not merely a …
Q: My online dates all lie about their age. Should I? –Hal A: Dear Hal, This is a tricky one, and I’ve heard a lot of ideas about it. One theory holds that you might as well come clean from the get-go and meet the people who can accept the truth. But sometimes people lie …
It’s the goddess’s birthday today, and my beloved Jove has called me my favorite endearment, “Darling”, at least six times already. I love it. Such a wonderful, grownup term, “darling” is, kind of 1930s–something Fred Astaire would say to Ginger Rogers, or Laurence Olivier to anyone lucky enough to be on stage with him. I …
A woman I met at a party–call her Wendy–turned to me, after I said that she seemed happy with her new date, and said, “He’s cute. But he has a penis the size of my PINKY.” Goodness. What does a goddess say to that? Was I to press for more details (“Awesome. And is that …
