“THE HEATING BILLS ARE RUINING OUR MARRIAGE!” says a lovely young wife from Rhode Island. They were married in June, and even before the geraniums had turned to withered stalks, She began wearing turtlenecks, He stuck with his cotton t-shirts. She craved chili and spaghetti and soups, he wanted icy vichysoisse and sangria. (Not, she …
Dear Readers: Today we will observe a man who falls into one of my favorite categories: Dating Again. You know that “dating again” is hard on some people. It is particularly hard on Michael S., a divorced man who is on e-harmony. I bring him to your attention because, like other men I’ve spoken with, …
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On the cover of today’s New York Times Book Review is a review of the new biography, Flannery: A Life of Flannery O’Connor, by Brad Gooch. There, sitting on her porch in a single strand of pearls and a wry smile, is the Georgian author, her crutches—she had lupus–leaning against her rocker. O’Connor, observes the …
I’m hearing too many stories about what joblessness and money woes are doing to relationships. More wife-beating. More verbal abuse. More men saying things (to women caring for three kids at home) like, “I’m not your bail-out package, y’know.” More women saying things to men like, “I didn’t sign on for life with a jobless …
I’ve said it before: It’s not the long-term marriages that usually break up–contrary to what we often believe. No, marriages that break up are new marriages–and break up within the first seven to ten years. In the spirit of long-term marriages, I offer my favorite song. I’d have run it on Valentine’s Day, but I didn’t …
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Q: I have a new boyfriend and already feel I’m working too hard at sex. Can you help? A: You’ll rest easier if you ditch these four signs of sexual overachieving. 1. Trying too hard to give him an orgasm. Your thinking: “If I please him totally right away, he’ll be in the right mood …
From The Goddess’s good friend Michael Steinberg, who reports this morning, after reading The New York Times, from his world of online dating: “It has become a daily pleasure to open The New York Times, turn to the obituaries, and see how many of the women with whom computer dating services have matched me are–shall …
Dearest wounded lovers, I assume you’ve spent the weekend in bed and followed the 8-part program to get yourself out of Heartbreak Hell. You’re rested. You’ve eaten well. You haven’t cut your hair into last year’s Victoria Beckham bob; you haven’t put in hightlights that turned green or leave the glycolic peel on too long. You’re okay. Now comes the …
Dear heartbroken ones, I hope you took to your bed yesterday and are still there. Here are four more musts for getting through this hideous time. As you can see from the previous four ways to survive heartbreak hell, my concern is not in reconnecting. It’s in rebuilding. Rebuilding You. Then, perhaps, and only then, is …
Q: Sex between my beloved and me doesn’t blow my mind. But we’re comfortable and confident together. Can sex ever get better? A: No one ever said comfort and confidence are cinematic. The infamous dark side to eroticism is that it very often spikes in the presence of Mr. Wrong. “I had a peak experience …
