To be a goddess looking down at women over the centuries has been trying at various times-but positively joyous over the past few days. For one thing, America might get a new female Supreme Court Justice now that Justice David Souter is stepping down For another, Britain just appointed a female poet laureate after …
I know times are tough. I know everyone’s out of work. But we’re getting just too tough on our lovers. I’ve been hearing from men recently that the women they love are hurting their feelings. Not only about money (not making enough); not only about house work (not doing enough). But women whipping out the …
It’s a tough time for so many people, and not only economically. Love is so much harder in these hard times; our nerves are raw, our anxiety is up, our patience is down. I was thinking about this as I cleared my huge, celestial desk about an hour ago, after a sleepless night I can’t …
Today’s the day the country is celebrating the first 100 days of our new President. From my lofty perch, I think he’s doing an astonishingly good job. But be that as it may, 100 days is also the number of days it takes to assess a new boyfriend. Both assessments are incredibly important, as each …
The First 100 Days Of LOVE–Why, Just as in Politics, They Matter Read More »
What on earth has happened to etiquette, down there? Whither kindness–and courage? I ask because two friends just, over the weekend, asked me the same question: “May I break up with a man by e-mail? ” No, dear friends of mine down on planet earth–you may not. E-mail is a lovely tool, but it’s for exchanging quick information with people,s …
In her book review of Andrew J. Cherlin’s interesting book, The Marriage-Go-Round, the first question The New York Times book reviewer, Dinitia Smith, asks in Monday’s review, is: Do Americans get married too much? She asks this because we have one of the highest rates of marriage of any Western country-and also a divorce rate …
"Till Death Us Do…" er, No, "Till We No Longer Care" Read More »
My dear earth sisters and daughters, it has come to my attention that there are too many–really, many too many–relationships that are leaving women drained, miserable and worried that they’ll never be in a good partnership, ever. So it’s time for me to speak the way I would goddess-to-goddess, to all of you down there …
What’s the one kind of date where you don’t go Dutch, ever? What’s the one kind of date where glamour is considered crucial? What’s the one kind of date that’s losing steam faster than you can say “Bye Bye 401 K.”? Yes, my lovely unfaithful earth lovers, it’s the extramarital date. For better or worse, …
Here’s one small but typical example of what happens to a man and a woman on a lovely date when she talks about her feelings. And I don’t even mean feelings about the relationship; just any feelings at all. I call it the Pizza Parlor Illustration of Communication Breakdown. A couple walk into a pizza place-a little dive they’ve …
I’ve been talking to women about sex and want to share three sex lies we all seem, at one point or another, to tell ourselves. They each have to do with some imagined “shoulds.” The first is that there are couples out there who are having perfect sex, and they’re having it at perfectly …
