Dear Goddess, my husband and I still live under the same roof, but have been awaiting the time when we could afford to get a divorce. Things are not getting easier…..what’s your advice? –Stranded Dear Stranded, When breaking up is this hard to do, my advice is not to do it. At least not …
I’m hearing a lot about the problem many women have of “handing themselves over” to the dating process–that is, feeling that, once they decide to go online, say, they begin a slow process of not quite being themselves anymore. Of being good girls. Of needing to please. It’s remarkably subtle, this process, but let me …
I’m just back from The University of Vermont, where one of my darling goddess-daughters, Ryan, just graduated from the Honors School, and where former Vermont governor Howard Dean gave the keynote address. Dean, also former Chairman of the Democratic Committee, spoke with passion about political activism–about how different it was in his day (a day …
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Dear Goddess, I’ve recently gotten a divorce. Suddenly I’m finding that some people–particularly people at my church–are acting chilly towards me. I feel as if I’ve done something terribly wrong by getting a divorce. What do I do? Ah, yes, the Righteousness Crew has come out! You don’t say what denomination your church is, but I …
Okay, since yesterday, little has changed: He still hasn’t called. You still have a stomachache. You still are furious at yourself for regressing to this point where a guy, this guy Jason, whom you met once, has power, any power, over you at all. Relax. Breathe. Try to remember, two weeks ago or so, …
It’s Saturday and you’re dressing for a blind date, who is to arrive in ten minutes. You’re wishing that you were spending the night watching old Fred and Ginger videos with a bottle of Chard rather than meeting Jason Johnson at Starbucks and splitting the check. His very name, Jason, annoys you. His voice …
Here’s what I so love about Oprah: In yesterday’s commencement speech to the Duke University Graduating class of 2009 (where her godson-William, son of Gayle King, was graduating, and where my husband’s and my earthly goddaughter, Aria, was, also), she spoke about the very things I do here on this site. And in the …
When she talked about her new lover, she always talked about sex. In fact, she always looked as if she’d just HAD sex. Flushed, beaming. So of course I figured she was incredibly happy. Are you incredibly happy? I asked, almost as a joke. “In bed, I am.” Not so happy out …
A friend points out that I omitted a whole section, in my last blog, about the possibility that it’s not YOU obsessing about the ghosts of girlfriends past, but the man you’re going out with himself. “Goddess, he won’t give her memory up. if he’s so focused on her, and wants to keep focusing on her, what …
Here’s what you know about her. She was gorgeous. Thin, long-legged, big-breasted; oh– and successful; and speaks four languages; and….blah blah. You are obsessed with her. With finding out more. Why did she leave? How long did he take to get over it? HAS he gotten over it? Where does she live? Is she …
