Q: I’ve been hooking up and hanging out for so long I don’t know if I’m capable of a committed relationship, and at 26, it embarrasses me. Am I doomed to sleep around forever? –JamesA: Dear James,
A: Only if you keep hooking up and hanging out. It’s all lifestyle, after all, and lifestyle is all your choice. The minute you don’t go to the bar, or don’t plop down on someone’s couch after a night of drinking and schmoozing, you’ll meet others who don’t, too. But know thyself: Before you go to the opera or hire a matchmaker, be sure you want a relationship and not just a temporary sexual partner. Many people fool themselves.