Q. Dear Goddess: How do I know if a man, whom I love but feel uncomfortable with much of the time, is wrong for me? –Weirded out
A. Dear Weirded Out: You know by analyzing this discomfort. Not in your head, but in your heart and in your body. My rule of thumb: If a man makes you feel A. Exhausted ; B. Like you’re walking on eggshells or C. As if something is wrong with you that only feels wrong when you’re together…….well, darling earth child, methinks he’s wrong for you. The point of a relationship is not to have to work through the worst feelings in the world, but to start at a pretty high level of compatibility. You should feel like yourself. You should feel calm but energized. And you should never, ever, feel anxious or afraid. In a way, and I’m sorry to say it, I’m afraid your very question has the answer built into it…..