http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2009/03/09/your-most-asked-questions-about-love-2/ Dalma Heyn - Psychotherapist & Pet Loss Grief Counselor Tue, 13 Jul 2021 19:38:45 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.3 http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2009/03/09/your-most-asked-questions-about-love-2/#comment-67 Tue, 10 Mar 2009 21:07:39 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com/?p=299#comment-67 I have to agree, sometimes a woman can get lost in her relationship. I have been married for almost 18 years, and during those years, I stayed home to raise my children. It was very easy to sort of “fall into” that role of just a mother and a wife. The role of the wife being cooking, cleaning and listening to your spouse. When I went to bed at night, I had no energy or time to devote to me. Funny thing~ when I turned 40, I realized something. I had slowly been fading away into someone I did not know. How did I know this? One night, my husband and I wanted Chinese Food. We always got Wonton Soup. It was then that it hit me. I don’t like Wonton Soup. Why do I eat it? I always used to get Egg Drop Soup before I married him. Why did I change? To please him when we were dating! That night, I ordered Egg Drop Soup and enjoyed every bite. It never tasted so good. We had a good laugh about it, and still do. So, I really do believe that it happens. Women must work at remaining who they are. I am so much happier now that I spend a bit more time taking care of myself. The result is that my husband notices how much happier I am now! Being “me” again has done wonders for my relationship!

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