http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/12/08/doing-your-own-thing-not-the-bliss-thing-part-3/ Dalma Heyn - Psychotherapist & Pet Loss Grief Counselor Tue, 13 Jul 2021 19:42:22 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.3 http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/12/08/doing-your-own-thing-not-the-bliss-thing-part-3/#comment-46 Thu, 11 Dec 2008 00:09:06 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com.s60578.gridserver.com/?p=17#comment-46 I think that my reaction to all the pressure that Janet, Kristen and I put on ourselves whether it be “getting the right man,” “getting a child at the right time” or ” getting the right job” is so doomed. There is no right person, time or job. There is always the flip-sideor the down- side of everything.
People find their true love at 19 or 60 or one woman I met, at 81 and usually when they are not looking.
The stress all this creates and not to mention- the pressure- as these chocked- full and chocking feelings fester- kills; and in the scheme of things- if nothing else- robs you of precious time and energy.
Get thee to a yoga class or trim a really beautiful tree or go get the DVD of the original Pygmalion with Wendy Hiller. So much a part of life is suffering. Why are we so different from the rest of the world?
Let it go and just be. Stop- yes- stop the madness that we woman, no matter whether we are married, single, childless, too skinny or too old- heap on ourselves. Whatever happens happens and all these expectations are exhausting. As my daughter would say, chill.

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