Comments on: Dating Hell: The Separated Man (part 2) http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/10/30/dating-hell-the-separated-man-part-2/ Dalma Heyn - Psychotherapist & Pet Loss Grief Counselor Tue, 13 Jul 2021 19:43:25 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.3 By: God of Love http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/10/30/dating-hell-the-separated-man-part-2/#comment-33 Thu, 06 Nov 2008 18:08:18 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com/?p=177#comment-33 Thanks for the kind words, TLG. Sorry for the duplicate comment postings. Love your Love Blog.

GOL

]]> By: thelovegoddess http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/10/30/dating-hell-the-separated-man-part-2/#comment-34 Mon, 03 Nov 2008 19:31:24 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com/?p=177#comment-34 I’m thrilled to have such smart, wise comments from the wise man calling himself the GOL. I admit that I feared that some men might get testy about my words, as they sometimes do when I warn women away from them, even for good reason); instead, I’m greeted with extraordinary good sense, empathy and good advice.
Yes, GOL, I forgot to include the fact that the separated man’s wife, however unhappy with her mate, is still married to him and surely won’t like him to see anyone else. (I know people divorced from each other for years who go crazy when their former mates find love again.) An angry, jealous wife can mean–to you, the new girl dating her husband–serious trouble and both emotional and legal complications for him. Yes, get him to a counselor or a clergyman. And yes, be as kind as you wish when you tell him to call back a year after his divorce. YOu’re not trying to punish the guy for what’s going on his life, only to protect yourself it.
TLG

]]> By: God of Love http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/10/30/dating-hell-the-separated-man-part-2/#comment-35 Fri, 31 Oct 2008 07:04:26 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com/?p=177#comment-35 Of course if you’re in the middle of your own divorce war, the two of you just might make a perfect match, misery loving company, as the mortals like to say. The trouble is – you could easily more than double the trouble and misery you already have. His wife might not want him any longer but that doesn’t mean she’s cool with anyone else having him. At least not until she’s finished divorcing him. In fact, she probably isn’t. And then there would be your estranged spouse. Bad enough that your own names have to show up in your own divorce papers.

If you truly want to offer him care and comfort, be a friend and give him the name and number of a good talking therapist or suggest he talk with his clergyman if he has one.

If all goes well, a year or more after your divorces are final, he will remember your wise act of kindness and still have your phone number tattooed to the back of his hand. He may even appreciate the erotic power behind your demonstrated prudence and restraint. He’ll be ready to begin an entirely new acrimony-free conversation with a lovely nymph just like you and you will deserve all of the respect and gratitude he ought to be sweetly expressing to you on your first marvelous date.

GOL

]]> By: God of Love http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/10/30/dating-hell-the-separated-man-part-2/#comment-36 Fri, 31 Oct 2008 06:37:06 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com/?p=177#comment-36 Of course if you’re in the middle of your own divorce war, the two of you just might make a perfect match, misery loving company, as the mortals like to say. The trouble is – you could easily more than double the trouble and misery you already have. His wife might not want him any longer but that doesn’t mean she’s cool with anyone else having him. At least not until she’s finished divorcing him. In fact, she probably isn’t. And then there would be your estranged spouse. Bad enough that your own names have to show up in your own divorce papers.

If you truly want to offer him care and comfort, be a friend and give him the name and number of a good talking therapist or suggest he talk with his clergyman if he has one.

If all goes well, a year or more after your divorces are final, he will remember your wise act of kindness and still have your phone number tattooed to the back of his hand. He may even appreciate the erotic power behind your demonstrated prudence and restraint. He’ll be ready to begin an entirely new acrimony-free conversation with a lovely nymph just like you and you will deserve all of the respect and gratitude he ought to be sweetly expressing to you on your first marvelous date.

GOL

]]> By: God of Love http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/10/30/dating-hell-the-separated-man-part-2/#comment-37 Fri, 31 Oct 2008 06:35:19 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com/?p=177#comment-37 Of course if you’re in the middle of your own divorce war, the two of you just might make a perfect match, misery loving company, as the mortals like to say. The trouble is – you could easily more than double the trouble and misery you already have. His wife might not want him any longer but that doesn’t mean she’s cool with anyone else having him. At least not until she’s finished divorcing him. In fact, she probably isn’t. And then there would be your estranged spouse. Bad enough that your own names have to show up in your own divorce papers.

If you truly want to offer him care and comfort, be a friend and give him the name and number of a good talking therapist or suggest he talk with his clergyman if he has one.

If all goes well, a year or more after your divorces are final, he will remember your wise act of kindness and still have your phone number tattooed to the back of his hand. He may even appreciate the erotic power behind your demonstrated prudence and restraint. He’ll be ready to begin an entirely new acrimony-free conversation with a lovely nymph just like you and you will deserve all of the respect and gratitude he ought to be sweetly expressing to you on your first marvelous date.

GOL

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