Q: My boyfriend is always trying to change something about me. He says it all lovingly, and as if I’ll be happier if I make the changes, but it’s constant. I want to please him, but he seems to have a vision of someone else in his head. What’s up?
A: It could be several things. He could be a control freak and simply trying to get you to do the dishes HIS way or keep your car washed the way HE likes to. If that’s the case, you can change things over time by dealing with his desire to control. If he wants your hair different, you weight different, you BEING different, I’d say you’re not going make any headway, and will only end up feeling diminished. And wishing desperately for a new boyfriend.