http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/09/25/on-the-idea-of-financial-infidelity/ Dalma Heyn - Psychotherapist & Pet Loss Grief Counselor Tue, 13 Jul 2021 19:43:52 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.3 http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/09/25/on-the-idea-of-financial-infidelity/#comment-42 Fri, 17 Oct 2008 02:19:06 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com/?p=186#comment-42 Dear LuluOnTheZigZag,
Ah, but nowhere did I mention actual infidelity; that is, having a lover– never mind a lover whom you buy presents for! You make a good point, but if you’re buying gifts for a lover who is not, as you put it, your main squeeze, why would it matter if that gift is above or below $1000? Now we’re in a whole different ballgame. There’s the commitment issue, the financial issue, the whose-money-is-it issue…..
TLG

]]> http://wordpress.dalmaheyn.com/2008/09/25/on-the-idea-of-financial-infidelity/#comment-43 Thu, 02 Oct 2008 00:53:40 +0000 http://blog.thelovegoddess.com/?p=186#comment-43 Dear Love Goddess,
So, we’ve got two basic issues here (which can be sub-categorized,but then my answer would be Way too long) : omitting the exact cost of something, or causing a nervous breakdown? “Financial infidelity” seems a rather extreme and ridiculous term…unless of course you buy your lover – your other lover, and not your husband or main squeeze – a pair of cuff links, say, for over a thousand dollars. Here, there is an element of infidelity. If you “literally can” afford to spend extra here and there, the ideal would be that your husband/partner would say, “How wonderful you treated yourself to something you love!” My own does this, and he can’t, by the way, always afford to. Otherwise, I am with you Love Goddess – discretion is no where near cheating. And, just think of the money you are saving him: a heart attack would certainly follow the trip to the emergency room, plus the stay in the hospital due to the nervous breakdown once he got the hospital bill;)
LuluOnTheZigZag

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